Coaching Points For Group Leaders (Week 17): BLESS Rhythms – Love Yourself

Looking Back (10 Minutes)

  1. Accountability:  Love Does
    • What is one step took last week to love God with all of your heart, soul, mind, and strength by loving people this week?
  2. Connecting Relationally (Optional)
    • If you know that a group member is going through a major life event, then feel free to ask them about it.
    • Otherwise, on occasion, you may want to also ask the group, “What is one thing you are celebrating that happened last week or one place you saw God show up?”

Looking Up (40 Minutes)

  1. Discussion Questions:  Prayerfully ask the Holy Spirit to guide you in determining which of the discussion questions you will ask your group members.
  2. Note:  You may want to think about asking a particular question to a particular person (or persons) in your group based on what you know of their story or what God is doing in their lives.  Also, remember to include and draw in members of the group who are less talkative than others.

Looking Forward (10 Minutes)

  1. Goal-Setting:  Love Does
    • Describe the area of self-care that you think needs most attention and one thing you are going to do to grow in this area.
    • What is one thing you are going to do to improve your physical self-care (eating, drinking, exercising, etc.)?
  2. Prayer
    • What is the area mentioned under self-care that you most need prayer for to love yourself well?
    • Spend time praying.


Stephen Phelan is a beloved son of God, husband to Bradford, dad of 4, crazy about his family in Alabama and former church family in San Diego, pastor of a mortgage company (what???), and joyfully astonished by the grace of God and the power of the Spirit.

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